Playing the Game: Lab-Rat Roundup
By Alex Fayle

The way people interpret language always amazes me. When I wrote the word game in my Lab-Rat post last week, I meant it in terms of the game of improvisation I mentioned in my blog post The Grand Game. When everyone else (except Crista) read the word game they took it in completely other directions: literal games, the psychological games people play with other, or both.

That’s what makes communication so interesting and yet so tricky. I didn’t get what I thought I was looking for, but in the end I learned some great lessons from what I did get.

So, let’s take a look at what I got:

Shutting Down

The literal game players tend to quit when it’s no longer fun (Friar), when the other participants are being bad losers (Barbara), or when they themselves are being bad losers (James). Friar might give it a few more tries, but only the Urbane Lion will stick it out to the end.

When Brett, the Urban Panther and Steph are faced with psychological games they walk away, with Friar again taking another few tries just to make sure that it’s the situation and not him.

Surprise Ending

Actually there’s no surprise here. Everyone when they pushed themselves ended up having a great time pushing themselves. Now, because I’d asked for a success, I got the success stories, but it does show that sometimes if we are willing to stretch our comfort zones a bit we’ll surprise ourselves and come up with some superb and unexpected outcomes.

The trick here, of course, is to know when it’s good to stretch and when it’s better to walk away. I’d say for everyone that would depend on the situation, their mood, etc…

Stuckedness

The responses to the complete the sentence exercise fell into two categories: shut down or push (or both). Let’s take a look:

  • Urbane Lion: When I feel completely stuck all I want to do is scream at the top of my lungs and charge ahead!
  • Crista Renner: When I do feel completely stuck, all I want to do is retreat and recharge.
  • Brett Legree: When I feel completely stuck, all I want to do is sidestep around the problem. There’s always another way to get to your goal, though it might not be obvious at first.
  • Friar: When I get stuck, I want to take a Time-Out. I want to leave the problem, give myself a break, and then come back to it when I’ve cleared my head and have had time to think about it. That always seem to work for me.
  • Urban Panther: When I feel completely stuck, all I want to do is say f**k it, and walk away. I used to walk away. A lot. Now I go take a break, and come back at it refreshed.
  • Steph: Finish the sentence: When I feel completely stuck, all I want to do ESCAPE! Or cry. Or call on Havi.
  • Barbara Swafford: When I feel completely stuck, all I want to do is walk away, put it out of my mind and come back later with a new perspective. Sometimes a nap works wonders.
  • James the Dancing Geek: When I feel completely stuck, all I want to do is be all grumpy and emotional then take a break, try again harder, and win. If I remember to get perspective I may see that I’m fighting something I don’t need to or that the best thing to do is let go, but usually I’ll keep pushing and pushing and pushing and pushing and pushing and pushing…

Someday Lessons:

  • Be very careful how you ask things because everyone has their own internal dictionary.
  • When life throws you something unexpected, try to play with it instead of turning off – you’ll likely surprise yourself.
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November 11, 2008 · Filed Under The Lab-Rats 
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2 Responses to “Playing the Game: Lab-Rat Roundup”

  1. steph on November 11th, 2008 5:01 pm

    I read your other post, the one in which you persist in looking for good food, but I think I’m still unclear as to what your intentions were last post. Can you explain more what you meant? Then we can answer again, accordingly, and learn a new lesson! Or were we still sort of on track learning not to give up but instead to see things as a challenge? Sort of?

    steph´s last blog post..Perspective

  2. Alex Fayle on November 11th, 2008 9:33 pm

    @Steph
    Yes, the lesson was the one I wanted to impart, but people got to it a different route.

    When I said game, I meant the rules of improvising and applying those to life which are: you never answer a question with a single word or a “no”; you never shut down someone else’s idea; and you should be as creative as possible with your responses.

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