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Fear, Unique Pathways & Self-Awareness: Lessons from the Lab-Rats
Tags: action, Choice, fear, Procrastination, walk the talk
- Someday Lesson: Most of us are good talkers - but how many of us follow through on the talk?
At the end of December, this inaugural Lab-Rat experiment will wrap up. Next week the Lab-Rats are going to tell us what they got out of the three months of working together, but first I wanted to slide in my own observations.
I especially noticed three things from this group:
Fear is universal
All of us (me the Lab-Rats, and the people commenting) react to fear. For some fear causes paralysis, for others it’s a jolt of motivation. For me, I’ve realized that we fear that which most excites us.
In my own someday journey, from what this group has taught me, I will now look for what most terrifies me and head in that direction.
Everyone’s made from a different recipe
This isn’t so much a discovery as a confirmation. I’ve always said that there is never one way to live nor approach a challenge and the reactions of everyone to my questions has proved that.
Throughout the past three months, I’ve said that I’m like one of the Lab-Rats or like another, but I’ve never been consistently like any one of them. We might share certain ingredients but each of us uses a different recipe to create our lives.
Most people are aware of their challenges
This is something I’ve noticed not just in this group - wow, did I get a bunch of articulate people! - but also in my life here in Spain. Most Spanish people simply life. They don’t do all the personal development that we English do. They actually find it kind of funny.
Our culture is full of pop-psychology, so when pressed almost all of us can point out exactly what we need to do to achieve our dreams, what’s blocking us and what past traumas have shape our current challenges.
However, how many of us actually follow through on the talk?
I was lucky and got four people who were ready to walk the talk. And you all, the readers, also contributed great comments about moving forward with your own goals.
So that leads me to ask you - after following this Lab-Rat series, what did you observe?
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Everyone is made up of their own recipe, everybody is unique. And that is exactly why we are all free to create our own reality and not live set in the confounds created by others.
OK, I went a bit too far there
In regards to fear I completely agree, for me it is usually a jolt of motivation, not anything negative.
Stumbled!
Cheers,
Glen
Glen Allsopp´s last blog post..How to Get Someone or Something, Off Your Mind
Twitter: @pluginidA Recipe for Fear
1 Cup of Waiting
2 Rounded Tablespoons Tablespoons of Denial
4 Sticks of Excuses, cubed
Put all ingredients into the double boiler of your dreams for 30 years or until all hope is reduced to paste.
Feel free to substitute the rationalization anywhere where direct confrontation might lead to actual happiness.
Enjoy!
Jamie Grove - How Not To Write´s last blog post..Shut The Hell Up And Write: A Whiner’s Guide and NaNoWriMo Profile
Twitter: @hownottowriteIt’s not easy to go toward the fear. I’m fighting this battle almost every day in some little way. When we do lean into the fear we realize it’s this personal growth that we needed. The less fear that is in our life the more love we can give.
I struggled with public speaking, but I know the career path that I’m building is taking me on this route. So I joined Toastmaster a few years ago and now I enjoy getting in front of a crowd. Like you said - I’ve turned it into something that excites me.
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Hi Alex -Fear is a tough one. Often it’s not the actual doing that we fear but the outcome. I must confess that I get struck by that fear a lot.
I didn’t realise the Spanish weren’t into personal development.
Cath Lawson´s last blog post..Affiliate Commissions - Is Your Anti-Virus Eating Them?
Twitter: @CathLawson@Glen
Not too far at all - you’re exactly right. We can live outside the limits others put on us. Unfortunately too many people forget that…
@Jamie
I love the recipe - especially the 30 years of pressure cooking!
@Karl
Havi over on the Fluent Self talked about battling and confronting fear and I agree with her. I don’t battle or confront fear. I simply use it as a roadsign pointing me in the direction I need to go. You seem to have done this already - choosing to pursue Toastmasters (which is a great organization, especially for people who are shy public speakers).
@Cath
Yes, the outcome is the fear point for sure. Mine is that I’ll have done a whole bunch of work and nothing will happen and then I’ve wasted a whole bunch of time, effort and possibly money.
Spanish bookstores do have self-help sections, but it’s not in the public consciousness the way it is in English culture. People don’t self-analyze and self-actualize the way English people are so obsessed about doing.
Twitter: @alexfayleIt’s often not simply fear, although sometimes this is the most accurate explanation. There seems to be a subconscious blindness to opportunity and change. The blindness is not deliberate, but it is as if your mind automatically shies away from something that might be risky to the comfort zone.
The closer you get to ‘danger’ the greater the emotion - sometimes fear, sometimes revulsion, sometimes contempt, and sometimes aversion to the risk of change which shows up as putting things off. It’s as if the boulders of life are teflon coated - you want to climb them but can’t seem to get a grip…
I often find that if I can generate ‘one good reason’ not to do something then this outweighs all the the other ‘good reasons’ to do something. I guess doing nothing risky has an unfair advantage.
@DiscoveredJoys
Twitter: @alexfayleWow! That was so beautifully said. I agree with you completely on this one (and I might have to steal the ideas - with credit of course).