When just surviving is the only choice: Kelly Erickson Interview
By Alex Fayle

As I turn this blog from hobby into business, I’ve found myself a few mentors. James Chartrand from Men With Pens is one of them; Kelly Erickson from Maximum Customer Experience is another. We’ve already heard from James about his own Someday Syndrome, so today it’s Kelly’s turn…

Describe who you are, how you live and what you do in one sentence.
think-er, do-er, love-r

Oh, geez, that’s not a sentence. Let me try again.

mother–daughter–friend–Experience Designer–student&teacher–writer–innovator–creator

One more time?

Name one moment in your life when you threw a pity party for yourself and the reasons why you felt you weren’t able to achieve your goals. Were you feeling stuck? Had you felt you failed? What wasn’t working in your life?
I’m not much for big pity parties, but I do have little ones somewhat regularly. I think they might be a release valve that keeps me from needing a breakdown. I can’t imagine that my ship’s going to come in if I sit around pouting—got to go out and flag it down!
Oh, dear, I didn’t answer that one, either. Okay, let’s dig deeper…

The last of my 3 back surgeries was in 1997. Cross fingers!

The first came a couple of years earlier. I had been through 18 months of incredible pain and frustration with my lack of health-care options. I’d lost my job (no laws to protect me back then), been turned down for government assistance while disabled, and for reasons unrelated to my health, my fiance left me in the middle of all this. My physical condition very rapidly deteriorated to the point where at times I was unable to sit, stand, or walk without help—periodically paralyzed from the waist down, a young go-getter in her early 20s.

Was it “Someday My Ship Will Come In”? Hell, no. It was “my effing ship is never coming in”!

Was I feeling stuck? You bet. I couldn’t imagine a light at the end of the tunnel. The insensitivity of the rounds of doctors I’d seen made me feel that I was a failure even at being disabled—hard to believe, but no one wanted to operate on someone so young!

For a short while I went back to living with my parents. At times I was almost completely dependent on them.

Nothing was working in my life and after a lot of banging my head against the wall figuratively, I settled in around the nine-month mark for weeks and weeks of sobbing.

Do you see why I knew this would be terrifying? And I didn’t even know what I’d answer!  :)

Even our worst behaviors fulfill a need in us or express our desires. When you threw yourself that pity party, what did you hope to gain? What need did you fulfill?
I’ll tell you the ugly truth. My injury worsened at a time when I had back-up from family. I don’t say that I wanted their help—I wanted to be whole and well!—but my body couldn’t respond to that wish.

I think it was an easy time for me to fall apart. I don’t think I would have let myself become a human puddle if I had still been in my own cozy house trying to figure out what the heck a newly paralyzed 20-something with no medical options does to survive. My pity party was a luxury, the only one I could still afford.

Tell us what you did to break up the pity party. What actions did you decide to take? Did someone help you buoy your spirits? Push you along?
At nearly-random moments, I was paralyzed—sometimes for hours, sometimes for days or a week. My herniated disc pressed so badly on my spine that messages didn’t travel to my legs. On a “good” day I could crumple to the ground in the midst of what looked like a firm step, and have no choice but to crawl if help was not around. Over and over, I was told, “I’m sorry, but you’re too young to have this happening to you!”

Not often in such nice phrasing, either.

The ultimate paradox. The only way to fix that is to get older, and by the time I’m older…. When it looked hopeless, I was utterly desolate for weeks.

There were breaks in the pain, or at least, the pressure eased up and let those messages through. I might be able to roll over, maybe walk a few feet, if the disc was behaving for a while. Sometimes a whole day or two might be decent. At one of those times I walked over to the treadmill in my parents’ family room (where they’d set up a bed for me, since I couldn’t use the stairs) and got on. I walked for perhaps a minute, with great difficulty, collapsed, and in a half an hour when the pain subsided, I crawled back into bed.

It never helped my injury, but working on something lifted that doggone mood. Thank goodness—I couldn’t stand myself anymore!

Can you look back on that moment and tell us how you felt when you did decide to take action? What results came about from your decision to take charge and move on?
There was nothing conscious about the moment. No “aha,” no recognizing a solution.

In terms of my injury, it didn’t solve the problem at all, but I kept at it because it helped something inside of me. Many months and many doctors later, I had my first of three surgeries, when I finally found a surgeon who thought I shouldn’t have to wait for Someday When I’m Older to start fixing my broken body!

How I felt? I’ve never been one for self-pity, so the moment I decided to do anything, if I couldn’t do what I wanted to, was pretty glorious. Collapsed in a heap on that treadmill, I felt fantastic. Except for that darn pain, like fireworks in my lower back, shooting down my legs, making tears stream down my face.

Those tears were some of the best I’ve ever shed.

Everyone has a Someday problem hiding deep inside, even little ones. What variety of the Someday Syndrome do you currently harbor? What would you like to achieve but haven’t yet?
Fast forward!

Oh, at home I’m a clutterer for sure. I come from a long line of clutterers.

I Might Need It Someday, in New England, is considered a Yankee virtue—thrift! But I have days when I’m fed up with it, and I throw things out like a woman on fire. I’m also an amazing boxer/ packer/ organizer, and I do love to have the things I must keep “just so.”

Examining your Someday Syndrome problem, what are you currently doing to resolve it and eliminate it from your life?
*ahem!* Do we have to talk about this?

I resolve to fix it forever, I reform myself and reshape my world, I do very well with it for a while, and then relapse!

I can’t deny it. My daughter and I are at “reformed and reshaped” right now, but I admit (shamefacedly) that I don’t expect it to last long. We aren’t messy or dirty, mind you—the apartment’s too small for that!—but after a month or two of this new neatness, we’ll leave an unfinished project out… or two… and I’ll need to bring some work home… and soon the dining room table will have only two clean spaces, large enough for our dinner plates.

Oh, no! Should I accept the problem good-naturedly? Maybe not, but I do….

Many people suffer the same problems you do. You’re not alone, and neither are they. What would you tell people in your situation right now to help them avoid what you’re going through?
“Many” people? Did I mention I come from a long line of clutterers?

I’ve seen this version of Someday Syndrome in milder cases like my own, and professionally and personally I’ve seen it in much more severe forms. I know people who’ve let I Might Need It Someday completely cripple them.

Maybe it’s a little like stepping on that treadmill was. If I had to give advice, I’d say tackle a drawer or a corner or a box. Just get up and do it today. Be ruthless, just for a few minutes. It might not cure you of your Syndrome, but it might give you the fantastic feeling that there is something in your cluttered world that you can control—and that feeling can lead you to the light at the end of the tunnel.

If you could ask for one thing, right now, to help you overcome your Someday Syndrome, what type of help would you ask for?
Two things: A bigger house (I like to imagine that if I had more room to organize I’d conquer clutter forever, not that I’d find more things that I might need Someday), and a maid.  :)

Always end on a positive note: If you’re wondering how things turned out for the 20-something with 3 back surgeries, well, some days she’s in a bunch of darned pain. A lot was fixed by the doctor who didn’t believe in Somedays, but much was left busted because the years had taken their toll. Rarely would you know it to look at her. She’ll bend and lift with the best of them until it catches up to her again.

She’s the Owner and Creative Director of VisionPoints, The Experience Designers, creating strategic, integrated interior and graphic design for small- to medium-sized businesses, and writes the Maximum Customer Experience Blog, where she’s awfully lucky to run into great people like Alex while talking about growing your business with awesome Customer Experience.

Hehe. One sentence.

Her motto in life and in her business: Go Where Your VisionPoints.

She never takes a minute for granted, and she loves to talk about herself in the third person.

Thanks, Alex, I’m humbled to have been asked to rip myself open for your readers. It was… sort of… fun!

ed. you can see Kely’s t-shirt in full size by downloading this PDF file.



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46 Responses to “When just surviving is the only choice: Kelly Erickson Interview”

  1. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 9:40 am

    Alex,

    You rock. Thanks so much for asking me here!

    Regards,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Tip of the Week: First Things First

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  3. Urban Panther on January 12th, 2009 12:22 pm

    Kelly,

    Awesome awesome interview. You really laid it out there; thanks so much for that.

    I cannot imagine life with chronic pain. Alex can, and he attacked it the same way you did, from my observations. Just get out there and move at all costs.

    Fast forwarding to your clutter … I am a thrower outer and everything in its place type gal. The Lion is a clutterer. He might need it! However, we are slowly working through the house together.

    We have committed to 15 minutes every day. Mind you, we just made that committment yesterday, so we’ll see how it goes.

    P.S. ha ha! I’m the first commenter!

    Urban Panther´s last blog post..A conversation on fighting

  4. James Chartrand - Men with Pens on January 12th, 2009 12:38 pm

    For once, I don’t know what to say. To not be able to move. To walk. To ride horses. To skate. I cannot imagine that level of chained-down life.

    I also cannot imagine a world where I cannot immediately get the health care I need. It just baffles me to hear stories like this - no money, no insurance, no help… I am thankful every day that I live in Canada and more each time I hear these stories.

    And clutter… Ah, clutter. I know that. I used to be much worse than I am now - I can actually throw things away now, but I do tend to store them for a while. Until I need the space to store something else, of course. Ah, but I have a basement!

    Actually, books is one area I have a bit of a problem with. That one’s not going away soon and I don’t want it to either. I can start my own library in a year, I think!

    James Chartrand - Men with Pens´s last blog post..Finding More Time For Yourself

  5. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 12:57 pm

    Panther,

    Thanks. Even though the act of moving (more than I thought possible) wasn’t a physical help, it was probably the thing that held me together, mentally.

    I’m a tough chick. Battling myself over clutter, though, does reduce me to a jelly on occasion. :)

    James,

    I’d have paid everything I had saved up, as would the people who loved me. The real shock (and depressant) was that no doctor would touch me. So many rounds of surgeons, so much rejection and incivility. I’d like to think it wasn’t because of our health-care system, no matter that I may not be a big fan of it.

    I’ve since heard from other folks with the same degeneration at young ages, apparently it’s the common way to “treat” it. To walk away.

    And clutter-wise, I often say thank goodness for this little apartment. If clutter wanted to get out of control, it really couldn’t do much damage here!

    Regards,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Are You as Essential as Morning Coffee?

  6. Brett Legree on January 12th, 2009 2:03 pm

    Kelly,

    Thank you for sharing your story today - wow. So glad you didn’t dissolve into a pile of goo, as the world wouldn’t be the same without you.

    I can’t send you a maid, but you can borrow the tribe any time - given enough feather dusters and rags, anything will end up spotless.

    Yeah - health care systems. I worked a stint on some projects in Minnesota about 5 years ago, and my US counterpart (in his 40’s) was living at home. He’d gone through a couple of rounds of chemo - the first one was paid for by insurance, and then they dumped him. Round two cost him his house and his credit. So even with a plan, it fails sometimes.

    But clutter - now, that’s a sign of intelligence and creativity. So keep that clutter going… :)

    -Brett

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..week 6 - final exam.

  7. Karen Swim on January 12th, 2009 2:51 pm

    Alex and Kelly, dare I say that this interview is one of my favorites so far! Honest and funny as all get out and now I have even more reasons why I adore Kelly! This interview was read while I drinking my morning coffee but the boost I got had nothing to do with the caffeine. Thank you Kelly for your willingness to be transparent. This was a GREAT interview!

    Karen Swim´s last blog post..Close Encounters with the Dark and Scary

  8. Friar on January 12th, 2009 2:58 pm

    @Kelly

    Wow. You’re one tough broad! (Can I say broad?). I meant that in a postiive sense.

  9. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 3:01 pm

    Brett,

    Now why didn’t I write “pile of goo”? That’s exactly the feel I was going for. High “pile of goo” potential, thankfully avoided.

    Intelligence, huh? Don’t tell The Kid, she’ll have yet another excuse not to clean her room.

    Your army would whip her into shape, no doubt!

    Karen,

    I don’t think I have many veils left. Have to be careful going forward. I’m so glad you liked it!

    Alex,

    I just noticed you put the pdf link in, too. Hehe, I wasn’t expecting that. :)

    Until later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..What If Kelly Had Someday Syndrome?

  10. Naomi Dunford on January 12th, 2009 3:03 pm

    Kelly is SO my homegirl. You kick ass, sweetheart.

    Naomi Dunford´s last blog post..The Definition of Marketing, Pottymouth Style

  11. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 3:07 pm

    Friar,

    I prefer “chick.” But for you, “broad.”

    Naomi,

    And for you, “homegirl.” Right back at ya, lady.

    Until later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..What If Kelly Had Someday Syndrome?

  12. Wendi Kelly- Life's little Inspirations on January 12th, 2009 3:46 pm

    Kelly,

    I am So sorry to hear about your back problem. You aren’t alone in that as I live that life every day! I have degenerative Disk Desease and a cracked vertabrae and I know the fear that comes from wondering if today will be a *good* day or a *Not able to move* day. I never have had the surgery, but chose to go the route of exercise with a personal trainer that works with people like us and so far, I’ve had a few good years. But the pain is there anyway. Nothing I can do about that.

    I think when you live with Chronic pain, it is easy to use it for an excuse for anything. It’s harder to get up each day and stay on task. Good for you for staying positive and focused!

    Wendi Kelly- Life’s little Inspirations´s last blog post..Starting Over

  13. steph on January 12th, 2009 3:48 pm

    Wow, Kelly, I had no idea about that past of yours. It shocked the hell out of me, because I have to say, I usually think of you as The Legs I saw in those suede purple boots. can’t forget ‘em. How can someone with such physical challenges be so damn hot and in shape?

    Determination? :) Hmmm, sounds just like you. I admire you a great deal for so many things, not least your toughness in rising above hardship like physical challenges and relationship heartache. I love your go-get-it attitude, your intelligence, your positivity. I’m certain those characteristics lend to your success with your biz and socially. And I think that while you might have one someday syndrome, the someday I might need it one, you’ve definitely beat the someday my ship will come in one.

    Thanks for sharing your answers. I see the strength in you and am curious as to how much further you could take yourself. Even while you’re doing it now, I know there’s potential for even greater. And I hope you don’t take that in a negative or condescending way. I mean to be inspiring, and sincerely so.

    PS. Okay, I think of you as more than just hot legs. Honest.

    steph´s last blog post..Rocking Chair Musing

  14. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 4:03 pm

    Wendi,

    Back stuff bites. You have my deepest sympathies.

    The way I was, it was surgery or… continue with the nothingness. And I’m not much for nothingness, so I made the round of surgeons from the east coast to the midwest, until I found the guy who could do what I needed to live freely, if not pain-free. In Iowa, of all places. He wasn’t much for nothingness, either. Thank goodness.

    Steph,

    If you were about 6′2″ and a single man, that first paragraph would be the nicest darn thing I ever read. As it is, it’s still pretty frackin’ sweet. LOL!

    I have a LONG way to go, even on the other Syndromes. But I never stop thinking about beating them. Alex has given me a new framework for these thoughts in his short blog-span, and I love that.

    I’m convinced my sense of humor is the ship that can keep me afloat through anything. If you could bottle Black Homor and sell it, anybody sitting in a dark corner could benefit. And I have sat in ALL the dark corners.

    Thanks for your kind words. I’m smiling from ear to ear.

    Until later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Tip of the Week: First Things First

  15. Amy on January 12th, 2009 4:07 pm

    Kelly,

    No never cease to surprise and amaze me. I like that about you.

    Now…… where can we buy the t-shirt? *biggest grin ever*

    Amy´s last blog post..Ever Felt Like Divorcing Your Blog?

  16. steph on January 12th, 2009 4:12 pm

    Kelly,

    Hey, any time.

    And sorry I can’t be 6″2 and single, but I’ll bet there’s no shortage of them out there. You guys just have to be in the right place at the right time. I think that’s actually pretty damn exciting, to think that. Creates suspense.

    steph´s last blog post..Rocking Chair Musing

  17. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 4:21 pm

    Amy,

    Thanks.

    And it’s very exclusive. So far there’s only one, but The Kid is begging for an XS.

    Naomi, if I write my sales page right, how much do you think Alex and I can make off this t-shirt?

    Should we borrow a duck from Havi, or a bunny from Amy?

    ;)

    Steph,

    I don’t have enough suspense in my life? LOL.

    Later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Tip of the Week: First Things First

  18. Graham Strong on January 12th, 2009 4:33 pm

    Hey Kelly,

    All I can say is wow…

    My wife is in a similar situation — we were in a very minor car accident a few years ago. Just a fender-bender. But we were rear-ended, and she was turned around talking to one of our sons, and something happened. She’s had a headache ever since. She eventually had to leave work because she couldn’t concentrate (of course the accident just after we bought our new house, based on two incomes…).

    She has the same attitude that you do though — she doesn’t let it stop here. Most days I don’t even know she’s having a bad day because she hides it so well. Not quite sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing, but that’s the way she is.

    We’ve been told by numerous doctors that there is nothing to be done, that it is just one of those things she’ll have to deal with the rest of her life. I’d like to think that there is a solution though. We live five hours from the Mayo Clinic, so one day I’m going to finally convince her to travel down and get a full work-up. It will certainly cost us, but won’t it be worth it if they can fix what’s wrong?

    As for clutter — ha, we were just talking about that last night! Our “new” house (it’s almost three years now since we bought it) is still a shambles, a fixer-upper and me with two left hands when it comes to holding a hammer… Don’t know what we were thinking there!

    But we are taking the same approach as what you recommended — getting our asses off the couch for half an hour each night to declutter. Tonight: tackling the big pile of mail that for some reason I feel compelled to keep over the years… Plus, I get to try out my new paper shredder I got for Christmas, so it’s a double-bonus!

    Thanks for sharing those stories, Kelly!

    @Alex — great little series of yours here! It’s always interesting to find out how your mentors live, isn’t it? I couldn’t think of a better subject than Kelly — I always knew she was a go-getter, but didn’t know the full someday syndrome story behind it!

    Cool shirt too!

    ~Graham

    Graham Strong´s last blog post..Where Web Designers (and Designees) Can Go For Inspiration

  19. Friar on January 12th, 2009 4:49 pm

    What I want to know, is who’s the Peeping Tom who took photos of Kelly while she was sleeping?

    Friar´s last blog post..The Amazing Friar’s Psychic Predictions for 2009

  20. Amy on January 12th, 2009 4:53 pm

    Friar,

    That was me. I sneak in and take pictures of you while you’re sleeping too. Didn’t you know? BWAH HA HA!

    Leaving now before I get slapped. ;-)
    Amy´s last blog post..Ever Felt Like Divorcing Your Blog?

  21. Charfish Charlie on January 12th, 2009 5:01 pm

    Wow, Kelly, youdabomb!

    From the comments I’ve seen of yours around the web, I always took you as that one-in-a-million person that has never ever experienced adversity of any kind. You’re always chipper, always finding something intelligent to say, always finding the time to make my blogs a better place.

    Now to read that you’ve been through the trenches like this…it’s even more impressive. I’m inspired. I’m awed. And I’m also, a least at this moment, not taking for granted what I have.

  22. Friar on January 12th, 2009 5:06 pm

    @Amy

    THAT explains the bunny poop under my bed!

    Friar´s last blog post..The Amazing Friar’s Psychic Predictions for 2009

  23. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 5:20 pm

    Graham,

    I’m so sorry to hear that about your wife. I hear you, some days I wonder whether stoicism is such a good thing… but it’s what I’ve got, and I do think it helps (to an extent). I hope she finds better answers some day. And thank goodness she has your strength to fall back on. That’s such a help.

    (& may you never know the full SS story–nobody wants to know that much!)

    Friar,

    I can not tell a lie. I’m keeping a 6′2″ man around just to take sleeping pictures to send to Alex.

    Uh oh. I may upset Panther again. :)

    Charlie,

    Never experienced adversity? *picks self off floor after 10 min. of laughter*

    I think that’s the best Someday lesson, and one I live all day long–never take a minute or an ability for granted.

    And make Charlie’s blogs a better place.

    Later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Tip of the Week: First Things First

  24. Pamir | Reiki Help Blog on January 12th, 2009 7:53 pm

    You possess a warrior spirit Kelly and that is about the only resource that could have let you emerge from your early story. Much heart and kudos to you!

    Pamir | Reiki Help Blog´s last blog post..The next 50 Reiki One-Liners

  25. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 8:02 pm

    Pamir,

    Thanks very much. And I do believe you’re right. :)

    Regards,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..What If Kelly Had Someday Syndrome?

  26. Janice Cartier on January 12th, 2009 9:32 pm

    Well, quite a thumbnail here. ( brave very brave.) Do you find though that the depth of that experience gives you a benchmark on other experiences when you might get a little anxious or be struggling a bit?

    Sometimes I will think to myself (when I am tackling something new, or am in a difficult situation), “hey this isn’t a hurricane barreling down at me, lighten up and just do it.

    I am thinking after all that pain and the persistence ( yay you for finding the right doctor) that you could make easy work of some of the challenges your clients have. Like the warrior you are.

    Clutter? Just cleared out my itty bitty closet here. It is so cool to open it now. And cleaned off the work table where I paint… which reminds me I better go use it.

    Virtual hugs Kelly. I am so rooting for you in everything you do.

    Janice Cartier´s last blog post..Exploratory Drawings

  27. Janice Cartier on January 12th, 2009 9:33 pm

    Friar- bunny poop? RofLOL.

    Janice Cartier´s last blog post..Exploratory Drawings

  28. Amy on January 12th, 2009 9:33 pm

    There’s plenty of bunny poop to go around, yall. Just sayin. ;-)
    Amy´s last blog post..Ever Felt Like Divorcing Your Blog?

  29. Friar on January 12th, 2009 9:54 pm

    @Amy and Janice

    And bunnies “re-cycle” their poop nuggets, too! (To process them twice).

    The first time I read that, I was so, SO disappointed.

    I expected more from rabbits. Really.

    Friar´s last blog post..The Amazing Friar’s Psychic Predictions for 2009

  30. James Chartrand - Men with Pens on January 12th, 2009 9:57 pm

    No better than cows, really. How disappointing.

    James Chartrand - Men with Pens´s last blog post..Restrict Your Creativity to Unleash It

  31. Amy on January 12th, 2009 9:58 pm

    Bunnies only do that if they’re not getting proper nutrition. :-)
    Amy´s last blog post..Ever Felt Like Divorcing Your Blog?

  32. Graham Strong on January 12th, 2009 10:03 pm

    Look, that rabbit’s got a vicious streak a mile wide! It’s a killer! He’s got huge, sharp… er… He can leap about. Look at the bones!

    So says Tim…

    ~Graham

    Graham Strong´s last blog post..Where Web Designers (and Designees) Can Go For Inspiration

  33. Janice Cartier on January 12th, 2009 10:11 pm

    Eeuwww! They recycle it? No way.

    Janice Cartier´s last blog post..Exploratory Drawings

  34. Friar on January 12th, 2009 10:20 pm

    @Amy

    I dunno….if I eat too many potato chips and not enough veggies, I STILL don’t have a desire to eat my own poop. :-)
    Friar´s last blog post..The Amazing Friar’s Psychic Predictions for 2009

  35. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 10:37 pm

    Dear, sweet, innocent Alex,

    I might have forgotten to tell you about my magical ability to take posts off-track without any apparent effort, when I said yes to this interview.

    Sorry about the bunny poop. :D

    Love,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..What If Kelly Had Someday Syndrome?

  36. Friar on January 12th, 2009 11:10 pm

    Yes, Alex.

    It’s KELLY’s fault

    (I had NOTHING to do with this) ;-)
    Friar´s last blog post..The Amazing Friar’s Psychic Predictions for 2009

  37. Karen Swim on January 12th, 2009 11:21 pm

    ROFL! I have been reading periodically throughout the day (made the day go fast, thank you!) and fell into hysterics at Kelly’s “Dear Alex” comment because ROLF! it’s so true! I had not thought of that but oh gosh, it’s so true,which is good because you’re great at keeping conversations alive but oh golly *holding belly trying to breathe* c a n t *giggle* t a l k laughing too hard!

    Karen Swim´s last blog post..Close Encounters with the Dark and Scary

  38. Kelly on January 12th, 2009 11:59 pm

    :)

    Like magic. While Alex sleeps.

    Kelly´s last blog post..What If Kelly Had Someday Syndrome?

  39. Todd Smith on January 13th, 2009 1:20 am

    Wow, Kelly! You are amazing. Even with your protests, you have bared your soul. Thanks for being brave enough talk about the really important stuff.

    Alex - great interview! I’m glad I didn’t put of reading it.

    Todd Smith´s last blog post..Photography Newsletter: Quiet Time Around Home

  40. Kelly on January 13th, 2009 1:51 am

    Todd,

    Oh, pshaw. Thanks so much. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

    There was a little kicking and screaming, but Alex is all the way in Spain, so he couldn’t hear it. In the end it was very good for me. :)

    Janice,

    Did you say something, back in the bunny discussion? I missed you entirely, sorry.

    The answer is Yes. Nothing, and I mean nothing, phases me. Stuff that should, even. So that’s good and bad.

    I’m a laid-back person by nature, but no doubt my life experiences have made me moreso. I can stay calm when discussing difficulties that might look disastrous to someone else, which is handy, but I can kinda get on people’s nerves by refusing to get upset about stuff and relentlessly looking for the upside, too.

    Unless my Irish gets in my way. Then stand back. :)

    Later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Chris Brogan Nailed It at 1 am

  41. Alex Fayle on January 13th, 2009 9:14 am

    Thanks for taking the reins on this one Kelly!

    With so many comments and so many conversations (bunny poop!) I’m not even going to *try* to respond to everyone individually.

    I’ll just say that thanks as always for the support and yay to Kell for being so open and honest with her life. I’m glad that the interview struck a chord with so many of you.

  42. Dorian aka coffeesister |_|) on January 13th, 2009 10:13 am

    First of all; Alex, your interviews always rock! ^_^

    Kelly, having been bed-ridden & still living w/chronic pain, I can relate to the need to just DO as well as the victory that the smallest things are. When dealing w/such issues in youth, people have a harder time seeing them for what they really are.. not to mention urgent. My own someday syndrome was believing them til I ended up down for the count in my 20s.

    I too am laid-back by nature & moreso by necessity. It can be very disconcerting for others when you don’t get upset (but amusing for us ~_^). Thank you both!!

    (|_|*cheers*|_|)
    “(Pain) removes the veil; it plants the flag of truth within the fortress of a rebel soul.” — C.S. Lewis

    Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)´s last blog post..Happy Damn Holidays!

  43. Kelly on January 13th, 2009 1:09 pm

    Alex,

    Um, hope you’ll still invite me back sometime. I’ll see about the mess. It was a really groovy party. I enjoyed being a conversation-starter! :)

    Hey, Coffeesister, how nice to see you!

    Amusing for us, yes. Sorry you’ve had to get your laid-back nature enhanced the hard way. It’s no fairsies, as my daughter would say. But, it makes it easy to spot the good days, eh?

    You always have the very best quotations.

    Regards,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..The Open Box

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  45. Dorian aka coffeesister |_|) on January 18th, 2009 9:54 pm

    Aww, you recognized me & my quotes!? :grin: Thanx!

    It’s the good moments I cherish but, of course, string enough together & you get a pretty damn decent day too. :wink:

    (|_|*cheers*|_|)
    “It is not good for all our wishes to be filled;
    through sickness we recognize the value of health;
    through evil, the value of good;
    through hunger, the value of food;
    through exertion, the value of rest.”
    ~ Dorothy Canfield ~

    PS: That’s a quotation I used in the post linked below; not actually my last blog post but one which seemed pertinent. Triple ta..

    Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)´s last blog post..To rest, perchance to live:

  46. Kelly on January 19th, 2009 10:41 pm

    Of course I recognized you! You’ve got a memorable signature/hook—and I’m a quotation-hound, so I always notice when you’re around. :)

    Good moments. I hear you on that.

    Keep stringing ‘em together!

    Until later,

    Kelly

    Kelly´s last blog post..Tip of the Week: Have a Lobstah

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