This week’s guest post is a reprint of a recent post by Jeff Nickles at My Supercharged Life. One of the most important principles behind Someday Syndrome is personal responsibility - we cannot necessarily choose what happens to us, but we can choose how we react to it. Jeff does a great job explaining what happens when we start taking responsibility for our own life.
Is your life everything you want it to be? Many of us are not experiencing the fulfillment in life that we desire.
Who’s to blame for this? The reality is we have no one to blame but ourselves.
Continuing to point the finger at your parents, spouse, boss, the government, this economy, your kids or anything outside yourself is a cop out. It is choosing to remain right where you are at.
You are simply and conveniently hiding behind a curtain of excuses.
Accepting personal responsibility for your position in life is the foundational step essential for living life to its fullest.
Our fulfillment in life is our responsibility. It is our job. No one else can do this for us. We individually choose our path in life and how we respond to everything that happens to us.
I want to encourage you to take personal responsibility for your fulfillment and happiness. Here’s some things that I think you can do to get started.
We hold many false beliefs about ourselves that often hold us back from pursuing the life we dream of living. Glen at PluginID reminds us You Are Enough!
Whatever it is you want in life, you have what it takes to achieve it. You are so much more than you think. You are better looking, smarter, more valuable, stronger and vastly more capable of handling all that life can throw at you than you currently believe.
Throw out your fears and false beliefs about yourself so you can start living! Believe you have what it takes!
What is it that you’ve always dreamed of doing, but have just been too chicken to try? What matters enough to you to step out of the rut you are in and take a chance? What is it that you want your life to stand for?
Steve at MyWifeQuitHerJob.com walks us through his thought processes in answering these questions in How We Stopped Short Of Becoming Lazy Pieces Of Crap. For Steve, it was his new baby that made him and his wife decide to do more with their lives.
Making a better life for your kids is a fantastic goal! If that works for you, then use it. If not, then find out what does motivate you and get going!
As Steve suggests, find something that moves and inspires you to change. Don’t waste another day wallowing in self-pity and despair! Time is too short!
Once you believe you are enough and know what you want, then you have to create a definite plan to make the desired changes a reality. Wishful thinking is not going to get you there. You have to take action to make it all happen the way you want.
Break the cycle of the status quo in your life by doing something different. You must step out of your routine and comfort zone to create change. There is no other way.
You can’t keep doing what you’ve always done and expect a different result. Life just doesn’t work that way.
Jonathan offers some great advice on this in 7 Roadblocks to Personal Development. We all face internal barriers to getting what we truly desire. The difference is that some people take the steps necessary to break free and others do not. Which will you be?
Are you willing to accept personal responsibility for your life? Are you going to stop blaming others, decide what you want and go for it? What’s your plan to get the life you want?
I guarantee you that you have what it takes! The world is your oyster! However, no one is going to hand it over to you on a silver platter. You have demand what you want from life to get it. Following the three steps above will get you a long way toward achieving your dreams!
What has been holding you back and what are you going to do about it?
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I’m confused, it’s the same article on both sites?
Either way, great post Jeff, and thanks for the link
Cheers,
Glen
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@Glen
Yes it is. This one is a reprint of Jeff’s article so that my readers can enjoy it as well.
Hi Jeff,
This is a great post I LOVE hearing the message “personal responsibility is key”. Too often people play the victim - a position in which life happens to them as opposed to them being an active participant in it and creating the life they want.
It’s so much more empowering and rewarding when we grab control, figure out what it is we want and go for it!
@Sherri - Glad you liked my post! I certainly agree that taking personal responsibility is way better than being a victim.
Thanks for the comment!
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I commented over on Jeff’s site, too, but I’m writing in again here because I think this is such an important topic. It’s easy to say that other people should take responsibility for their actions and I do believe that if more people did, the world would be a better place. But, it’s a lot more difficult to look at our own lives and realize we are not only responsible for our actions, but for our happiness and fulfillment as well. Excellent post, thought provoking. Thanks!
@Sherri & @Beth
Taking responsibility is definitely the most powerful thing people can do to take control of their lives and follow their dreams.
Not doing so is really just a form of procrastination.
I loved the way Jeff put the message across…
This post was a great confidence booster for me. I am tired of making excuses and falling in the same traps of procrastination and self-pity. Thanks for the post and keep the blog going.
Alex/Jeff,
Thanks for this discussion.
The third point which you mention is one area in particular where I personally require a considerable degree of attention.
Personally, in my own case, I have not clearly defined my own personal dreams or goals for the next five or ten years at this stage, nor am I following any form of concrete plan for achievement. This is an area where I need to do some serious thinking prior to the conclusion of my current employment contract in August. I need to develop a clear idea about my dreams and goals and develop a concrete plan of action.
With respect to the comment that ‘we have no one to blame but ourselves,’ I am not sure that it is healthy to blame anyone for any challenges which we may be facing in our current situation - including ourselves.
That said, I do see your point that we must accept that our own actions have no doubt contributed to our current situation, regardless of whether or not that contribution is a positive contribution or a negative contribution.
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@Paul D
Glad to see the post is a confidence booster - you’re definitely on the right track then!
@Andrew
Knowing where you want to go is a difficult task sometimes. There are either too many options or what feels like not enough. As for blame, normally I avoid such negative words as well, but sometimes a strong word like that is needed to shock someone out of a thought-pattern.
I came to a realization recently (not sure how long it’s been) about why I no longer suffer from depression. It’s because I’ve discovered ACCOUNTABILITY. It means that I’m in control, and nothing is over yet. I still have time and can do whatever I want with my life. I am not where I want to be yet, but nothing scares me anymore. I never tell myself that I can’t do something. I know now that I can. I will get there. I am so much more relaxed about things now.
@Amber
Congratulations on that realization and wow, what a powerful one! And yes, you will get there.
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